If you’ve never seen the comedy, The Princess Bride, my humor here will escape you. It’s from the classic wedding scene in an elaborate medieval cathedral where all eyes are on the sober-faced Impressive Clergyman as he’s about to begin the ceremony. You expect his voice to ring out like the Almighty Himself.
Instead, he sounds as if he took a few hits from a helium balloon. And he has a speech impediment. So his first word, “Mawage,” in that wimpy voice is laugh-out-loud funny, and the rest of his spiel goes downhill-silly from there.
Now don’t get me wrong. I think marriage is a seriously wonderful thing. I’ve been married for thirty-two years to a great guy who somehow puts up with me.
In my last post, I mentioned the debate over same-sex marriage and that it’s actually multiple issues—the purpose of marriage being one of them. So this week, I thought I’d make some observations on that.
Why did God create marriage?
Sex or begetting children isn’t the primary reason, although that’s included in marriage. But Adam and Eve didn’t have to be married to beget children. Also, I may be wrong, but I think if God wanted to make sex outside of marriage impossible, He would have designed the sexual response to work only in married couples, much the way adrenaline or sweat kicks in only when the body needs those.
So it seems to me that those who say same-sex marriage is wrong because it violates the purpose of creating children have overlooked something bigger.
The fact that Adam and Eve are male and female is also not the reason for marriage. Rather, the biblically stated reason is that Eve is already part of Adam. She was separated out from him, from his rib.
‘This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called “woman,” for she was taken out of man.’ For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.” (Gen. 2:23-24)
The very word “woman” is derived from the word “man” in both English and Hebrew. Adam is therefore instructed to re-unite with what came from him, and Eve is instructed to re-unite with her origin. Together, they make a complete whole.
In the same way, we were all separated out from God as distinct, but we also go back to God. Jesus said the very same thing regarding himself. “I came from the Father and am going back to the Father.” (Jhn. 16:28) Since Jesus is the first-fruit of multitudes to follow, it applies to us as well.
Thus, God created marriage as a story, a prophecy of togetherness. Humanity as a whole—that is, Jews and Gentiles—reunites with God in agape love the way Adam and Eve reunite. Marital sex simply mirrors this larger spiritual concept of being one in spirit and purpose with Him.
But you don’t have to be married to be part of it; you can be single and not miss out.
(See also my earlier post, Do We Know What God is Joining Together (or Why)? )
What are your thoughts on mawage?